SoulPancake

Well that's quite an insulting question...

I don't know what she did to make me like her, maybe it was the way her hair fell on her face, the way she smiled, the way she looked when she read a book. But life is sad because I broke her heart, and I should have known it from the beginning, I knew it in those late night sexual encounters, I knew it when I took her to chicago for the day to walk around navy pier, I knew it the first time I kissed her, but you know there's something magnetic to me about love, perhaps I don't love so much as I fall in love with the idea of love, and for that I end up hurting those I desire to love.

Strangely enough, I became a better person. My whole life I was told that being religious meant you went around all day carrying a bible, preching on the streets, and referring to God every chance you had. But I met a guy who showed me a side of religion that was not nerdy or precious, but beautiful. For once in my life I truly believe in God and now im not only doing it for this guy (who shall remain nameless), I am doing it for myself and for my new found beliefs. He just helped me see it. If it wasnt for my STRONG attraction and love for this guy I would have never opened up to the bahai faith and now that I have I dont ever want to go back to the ignorance I once had.

"How did you go from being a person who was very uncomfortable about discussions of spiritual faith, a person who wasn’t quite sure what to think when it came to God—to a person who just joined the Baha’i Faith?"

A question Holiday Reinhorn, the wife of Rainn Wilson himself, was asked shortly after joining the bahai faith. Well, I havent joined the bahai faith yet because before I do I would like to answer that question myself. How do I make that transition? Am I doing it for me? Should I do it at all? These are the questions I have been asking myself.

I'm a guy first and foremost. I like girls. I typically go for girls who are themselves, but I have to like who they are in the first place. Girls out there, I would tell you to search out the intelligent guys if you share the same value of intelligence. The girl I like is very intelligent, and she's very mature for her age. If you just be yourself and put out the feelers for guys who like what you are, then you shouldn't have as much trouble.

simply put, a bad girl i guess

@Rin_Weh
Harsh, but fundamentally true.

If you try to "become" something you are not so another will like you, all you "become" is an idiot.

Sorry, inadvertently used an HTML command that messed up my response!

Ouch?
Hopefully yourself.

It is a poisonous mindset to think you need to "become someone different to make people like you". Sometimes we are off on tangents in our life and do need to re-make ourselves. But if the motivation is so that "others will like us" then one may be more interested in a business transaction than a relationship.

Or put another way, if I "become (A) so that they will render (B) unto me" and if after implementing (A) I don't get (B) then they have violated a contract in my mind (one they may have not even been aware of!) and I am justified in executing contractual penalties against them -- growing distant, disillusioned with the situation, drawing back, closing one's heart up against them, being angry etc.
And they haven't the foggiest notion of what's up with you, only that you're "going weird on them".

It's poisonous.
Relationship is not about "making people like who you will become for them". It's about people who accept you as you are, warts and all, and love you enough to stand by you as you walk your own path to self-discovery.

Ouch?
Hopefully yourself.

It is a poisonous mindset to think you need to "become someone different to make people like you". Sometimes we are off on tangents in our life and do need to re-make ourselves. But if the motivation is so that "others will like us" then one may be more interested in a business transaction than a relationship.

Or put another way, if I "become so that they will render unto me" and if after implementing I don't get then they have violated a contract in my mind (one they may have not even been aware of!) and I am justified in executing contractual penalties against them -- growing distant, disillusioned with the situation, drawing back, closing one's heart up against them, being angry etc.
And they haven't the foggiest notion of what's up with you, only that you're "going weird on them".

It's poisonous.
Relationship is not about "making people like who you will become for them". It's about people who accept you as you are, warts and all, and love you enough to stand by you as you walk your own path to self-discovery.